Living with behavioral health illnesses is a silent struggle that many people don't even realize is there. For years I lived with undiagnosed depression and anxiety. Only after realizing that weakness is found in not going to therapy and strength is found in going to therapy; did I begin to find healing. One of the main things I discovered about myself is the limited thinking patterns I had placed on myself. Allowing myself and others to place "shoulds" on me limited my self-acceptance. I should do this; I should not do that - it is a constant process of adding and removing the bars of expectations. During the first quarter of seminary, I remember sitting in a classroom frustrated with the instructors. They insisted we write academically, which usually means using vocabulary the general public would need a dictionary to understand. My frustration came out of the fact that academic writing is not my authentic self. I didn't go to seminary for another set of bars, I...